A World Without Fathers

I must say the mere thought scares me.

Think for a moment of a world where there are no fathers to provide for the family, to enforce and uphold rules and order in the home, to train young men and young women to be noble and hardworking, to support the wives in their sacred duties, to decide firmly on how to face challenges, to encourage learning by experience even if that means you may get hurt sometimes, to correct mistakes with pure love and care, to inspire to dream and to actually make them happen, to teach how to fight and stand for what is right, to protect their families, to take part in creating and rearing children, to take upon them the holy priesthood, to offer a sturdy shoulder to cry on or a warm hug when you need it, to say exactly what you need to hear, even if it sometimes hurts, to walk you through and guide you during the shaky moments of your life, to show examples of courage, strength, and integrity, to serve, and to love.

If all these are not enough to prove that fathers are precious in this world, think of this:

“Of all the titles of respect and honor and admiration that are given to deity, He asked us to address Him as Father.”

So to all mothers and children, (like myself) let us give the fathers what they truly deserve: our trust, support, and love.

And to all fathers, please continue to be just that: Fathers – in the truest sense of the word. The world is a lot better because you are here.

My father is not with us anymore, and there are days when I regret that I haven’t been able to say I love him enough. So it’s a good thing that there’s eternity. I love him dearly and I will surely see him again. But I will not make the same mistake ever again.

To my dear Kuyas and to my friends who are already fathers – Thank you very much for being fathers to your children 🙂

To our beloved Bunsoy, to my brothers-in-law, and to my friends who will be fathers  – I am excited to see you rock it 😉

To the father of my husband – Thank you for all your hard work and for bringing him up so well 🙂

And to the one and only father of my little one – You’ve been great. Many more bumps and bruises will come but I know our child will be okay. I know he’ll learn everything he needs to learn to be a good father himself, because he has you. Thank you. We love you. ^__^

A world without fathers is unthinkably chaotic. So I will be eternally grateful to our Heavenly Father for bringing fathers into this world. He sure knows what we all need 🙂

Happy Father’s Day!!!

 

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I KNEW LOVE

I KNEW LOVE
 
Before I met you, I was so sure I knew love.

I grew up reading and thinking about love.
I have been feeling it, been hearing love.
Heck, I have even written about love.
Countless times I’ve prayed for it.
Countless people sang about it.
Love was there, everywhere.
So before I have met you,
I was sure I knew love.
Like seeing the sky,
it was so clear,
really simple.
But then
YOU
changed 
everything. 
Unannounced
you came, then
all definitions were
altered. All examples
just paled in comparison
to the ones you showed me.
I had to tame my heart for there
were moments when I thought it’d
burst. Of so much love. Of a new kind
of Love. It was weird. It was new. It was 
You. Love was You. You were Love. I just knew.

Life Lessons: The value of being organized

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It’s amazing how simple experiences can teach you complicated lessons in life.

Today I spent almost 15 minutes untangling the chains of my necklace. Had I spent 20 seconds placing it carefully in my small pouch the day I put it there, I would have been able to use my 15 minutes to converse or reconnect with someone instead.

Sometimes, we opt not to bother putting things in order for we fail to foresee the importance of organization in saving ourselves from future complications of fixing or worrying when things get all tangled up, or worse, lost.

3 Ways To Avoid Feeling Incompetent

My recent weeks led me to enumerate these 3 ways to avoid feeling incompetent. Lately, the stress of my different roles suddenly made me feel insecure about my skills and performance. For a couple of years now, I believe that somehow (though not perfectly), I have been able to do a lot of tasks and satisfy most expectations of my roles.  And so whenever I am faced with a new role, I almost always just accept everything. Lately though, I think I have been biting off more than I can chew. The results: mediocre outputs, unsatisfied peers and loved-ones, and a severely damaged ego. And so I put this list up so I can have something to refer to now and in the future.

1. Reassess your strengths. 

No one is good at nothing. I have always been a believer of that. We are sons and daughters of a supreme being and we are of divine nature. That truth alone should inspire us to look into ourselves in a better light. Review your interests, passions and skills. What are you good at? There must be something there. A hint is when you get acknowledgements from people because of something you’ve said or done. I am not saying that we should only rely on other people’s opinion of what’s good about us, but at the very least, we have somewhere to start. Introspection is also vital. As human beings we have the unique capacity to be self conscious – to stand outside of ourselves for a time and reevaluate our core. Have you ever tried to imagine meeting yourself for the first time? What would probably strike you in your first conversation? It’s a fun activity. And it’s a good exercise to start building self confidence and finding one’s strengths along  the way.

2. Accomplish something today.

There are days when we just feel stupid and useless. I know. I’ve experienced that a lot. The only way to counter that is to actually attempt to do something and finish it. Do you have a to-do list? Give yourself a confidence boost by checking off at least an item or two from that list. It doesn’t have to be grand. Simple tasks like finally organizing your desktop files or drawer, giving someone a thank you note, or updating your medical record can be counted. No accomplishment is too small. At the end of the day, when you look back and see  that you’ve failed your major  tasks, you have those small accomplishments to keep you from feeling so down. It’s not everything, but it’s something, and definitely better than nothing.

3. Use criticisms positively.

There will always be critics. No matter how simple your tasks are and how good you think you are at what you do, at the back of your head you are really afraid of people who would say “You could have done it this way” or “This is not good enough”. The hardest part is to reconcile what you and what others believe to be satisfactory. Things will be more difficult and you would feel more incompetent if you believe that comments are given to put you down. More often than not, we can use criticisms to improve the way we work and even our outputs. If you believe that people have good intentions when they suggest improvements, then you will be able to accept and use criticisms to your advantage. Otherwise, you would end up feeling defeated and laughed at. It’s really a matter of perspective.

When I was writing  this I thought of the different hats I wear so I hope these things would apply to most, if not all.  🙂 But when all else fails, you can always take a break and get your minds off all the stressful things for a moment. Personally, it helps when I remind myself of this wonderful quote:

Don’t you quit. You keep walking, you keep trying, there is help and happiness ahead. Some blessings come soon. Some come late. Some don’t come until heaven. But for those who embrace the gospel of Jesus Christ, they come. It will be alright in the end. Trust God and believe in Good Things to Come.”
― Jeffrey R. Holland

Thankful Tuesdays/Love and Ðreams : Our Prenuptial Photos and Videos

Truth to be told, our prenuptial photos and videos are a few of the things I could say I am really proud of and grateful for. So allow me to make  this post a cross between the entry series Love and Dreams (All about…well…my love and dreams. haha!) and Thankful Tuesdays (All about things/people/events I am grateful for)

I have two main reasons for this.

1. The concept was a product of our bonding, imagination and creativity as a couple. The whole dream+fairy and farmer theme was something we came up with after stress free talks, We even had a story line! It was so much fun talking about it . It was a much needed break from all the pressure we encountered back then.

2. We were so blessed to work with very good and super talented friends. Each and everyone helped us so much. I believe I owe it to them to share to the world how talented they are. They deserve to be known and applauded. And also, I believe it is never too late to say “Thank you”. =)

And so here are the people and the rest of the details that made that day both lovely and memorable. Do not think twice on contacting them for your own events. =)

Venue: UP Diliman (Sunken Garden, Lagoon, Eng’g building, Educ building)
Theme: The dream (Fairy and Farmer fall in love)
Photos by: Aaron Medina (facebook) Mark Anthony Rosario (facebook)
Videos by: Ian Reyes (website.facebook)
Hair and Make up by: Kriselle Lumagui (youtube channel.facebook)
Our clothes by: Us! =)
My floral crown by: Debbie Villareal

The Photos (From Aaron)

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The Photos (From Mark)

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The Save the Date Video (From Ian)

The Prenuptial Video (From Ian)

eternity is my theme. writing, my release. reading, my pleasure. and living, my purpose.